Feeling Sad When the Guru is Absent

My most dear, most kind, most precious, wish-fulfilling one,
I gave a long explanation about the guru to one lady who had very strong emotions, both positive and negative. [This long advice is not yet published.] Basically, the disciple did request the guru but the disciple didn’t have much merit toward the guru for many years, so this happens.

As a disciple, there is the Fifth Dalai Lama’s extremely important advice. It is very clear, so I will read it for you:

In the view of your hallucinated mind, your own faults appear in the guru’s actions.
All this shows that your own heart is rotten to the core.
Recognizing them as your own faults, abandon them as poison.

Practice pure appearance, seeing whatever the guru does as positive, pure,
And have devotion and respect for whatever the guru teaches.
Then whatever you do, it goes into the holy Dharma.
(This means your actions, not the guru’s actions.)

This is a profound, valid point and it should be understood as the root of all benefits and happiness of completion. It’s very, very important that you don’t lose this quotation. It is incredible advice. OK, so that’s it. Meditate on these things and think well.

The world [people] think committing suicide [is the answer], but the answer is there. I don’t have to go through it or repeat it over and over again.

From the disciple’s side, if we don’t have enough merit, then [we won’t have the] teacher with us for so many years. That’s the answer, so it’s like that. We need so much merit for the guru to last longer.

It is explained in the tantric text, Adorned With the Essence of Vajra,

Someone who belittles their guru, even if they give up sleeping and all the distractions for one thousand years, and achieve the sublime tantra, it’s like achieving hell.

So, it’s like achieving hell. Even if we practice the sublime tantra well for a thousand eons by avoiding sleeping and all the distractions, it’s like completing the hells, the lower realms and so forth.

That means, if we belittle the guru and never change that—if we never discover our mistake—but on the other hand, we try to practice the sublime tantra without sleeping or any distractions for a thousand years, it’s like completing the hells and so forth. This is according to the quotation.

Please listen. You’re a very intelligent person, so you should be able to understand this. Then if you have a question, please ask me and I will try to answer.

Thank you very much. I will see you very soon.